To The Pink Flamingo, Scott Brown is heroic. Do you know what it takes to stand up and tell the world you were molested as a child? I do. Right now as I am writing this, I am in tears. After all these years, I rarely shed tears for myself and what happened to me at the hands of a pedophile elementary school principle. Once in awhile, though I do.
Scott Brown’s story is heroic.
“…“When people find people like me at that young vulnerable age, who are basically lost, the thing that they have over you is, they make you believe that no one will believe you,” Brown said, who said the counselor touched him during several incidents. “Fortunately, nothing was ever fully consummated, so to speak, but it was certainly, back then, very traumatic.”..”
Men rarely admit they have been molested. They need to do so. It is the only way anyone can recover. Trust me, I’ve been there. What Scott Brown has done should be an example to everyone. From what I can tell, this man has a heck of a lot of do-do to deal with, a heck of a lot. I’ve been there and done that.
The other day I heard that Senator Brown was not going to have the man who molested him as a child – a camp councilor – persecuted. He repeated his story on Hannity last night, but The Pink Flamingo rarely watches the FOX evening line-up anymore, and did not see the show. Brown said he had forgiven the man. I wanted to shout “Praise God!”
The man gets it!
When a person is molested as a child, your childhood ends at that point. Your life becomes something through which you stumble around until you “deal” with what happened to you. Usually that is when you reach your late 30’s. Then there is a freak-out period which is followed by a dealing with it period, which is then followed by a forgiveness period. Then you heal. Then you become a different person.
Brown will be criticized for not wanting to prosecute. He will be accused of making the whole thing up. I’ve been there and done that. I made the choice not to prosecute.
Not wanting to prosecute is not about cowardice or taking the easy way out. It is a forgiveness thing. Don’t get me wrong, there is a difference when dealing with someone who is actively harming kids. But that is another story and another post. This is about an adult dealing with the aftermath of abuse.
I know. Like I said, The Pink Flamingo has been there and done that.
I find I have difficulty dealing with people who can’t or won’t forgive. It is in forgiving that we are forgiven. The Lord’s Prayer specifically states: Forgive us our trespasses (sins) as we forgive others.
In other words, if we do not forgive, then we aren’t forgiven.
That’s serious stuff – really serious stuff that people have a tendency to ignore because it is not an easy thing to do.
If we don’t forgive, we aren’t going to be forgiven.
If a person isn’t a Christian, what’s in it for them – healing. You cannot begin healing from the abuse and the years after the abuse until you very seriously and totally forgive. Once you do, a strange thing begins to happen. You begin to heal, and begin to focus on other things in life. Forgiveness helps you get on with your life, to begin to put the abuse behind you.
It’s a God thing.
It’s also a smart thing to do.
I admired Scott Brown before, but now I think he’s quite a person.
Now – go to Hot Air and read the comments. It is amazing how vile people can be.