What do you think about the mother of a sick kid who has a Paypal donation link on her site, for people to donate to her sick child, and has a link to it after attempting to destroy a celeb who turns down her request for her child to meet this celeb?
The Pink Flamingo smells a rat….and it is not the celeb chef.
If I were a celeb and approached by something like Make-a-Wish to meet with sick kids, I would not do it. It has nothing to do with a lack of compassion, rather a lack of the ability to deal with anything medical. I don’t like hospitals. I must deal with medical issues for the family, but never ever expect me to visit a friend in a hospital. I don’t do it. I never have. I also don’t go to nursing homes. I don’t go to animal shelters.
A person has a right to do what they want to do and not be destroyed because they do not wish to do something – just because an out of control mother of a sick child wants it.
Just because a person is famous and does not wish to do something, they should not be harassed and blackmailed into it. I will say something else, up front. There are some seriously disturbed parents out there who enjoy having a sick kid. The use and manipulate their child’s illness for their own glory.
No one should be put through this kind of vilification because they don’t want to deal with a sick kid.
Just look at this:
Pardon The Pink Flamingo for sounding like such a nasty person, but I’m just a little suspicious that a six year old kid wants to meet a celeb chef. How much of this is about a sick child or his parents?
“...Today, the father of 6-year-old cancer patient Enzo Pereda told ABCNews.com that he turned down Ina Garten’s invitation for Enzo to visit her Food Network show. “We’re not going to do it,” Adrian Pereda said. “I don’t want my son to go through any other stress. We just want to go on with our life.” When asked if Enzo’s still watching the “Barefoot Contessa,” Pereda said, “I don’t think so.”"We’re sticking with the wish that we made right now — going with the dolphins,” he added. “He’s already seen some movies and stuff that’s going to happen and he’s excited.”…”
“…”Ina receives approximately 100 requests a month to support charitable causes that deeply affect peoples’ lives,” the statement continued. “She contributes both personally and financially on a regular basis to numerous causes, including to Make-a-Wish Foundation. Sadly, it’s of course not possible to do them all. Throughout her life, Ina has contributed generously to all kinds of important efforts, and she will continue to do so.”…”
Enzio’s mother wrote:
“…What makes me REALLY sad is how the press has been writing and referring to Enzo as a “DYING” child or a “TERMINAL” child making his “LAST DYING WISH.” Just typing it makes my blood go cold. Enzo is NOT dying or terminal, he IS very sick but he is VERY MUCH alive and the most ALIVE person I have EVER known! He has two beautiful, sensitive, loving sisters who have been very private through out his treatments and I feel terrible that they had to see that OVER and OVER again. Can you imagine how that makes them feel?…”
One of my “nieces” would watch Emeril Lagasse with her father from the time she was just a little kid. By the time she was six, she was “into” the kid version of Emeril’s products. This lasted for about fifteen minutes, then she went on to more interesting subjects. The only reason she even knew about Emeril was because she would snuggle up to her father and watch the show, with him. It was a bonding thing – and had nothing to do with a celeb chef.
I suspect this is the case with Enzo. A little kid doesn’t watch a celeb chef without their parents, not this young. I’m not saying it won’t happen, but the idea of a child wanting to meet a celeb chef over Big Bird, Mickey, or some comic book character just doesn’t make sense.
From the Ethics Alarm:
“...The single most unethical action in this unfortunate sequence is Mama Pareda’s passive-aggressive call for supporters of Enzo to wreak vengeance on Ina Garten. I can understand her anger and bitterness, and in her position, I would be angry too. But it was wrong, vindictive and unfair to call down the wrath of the media and blog-furies against her, which is exactly what her blog post did. (Now Pareda is trying to call off the pack, having figured out that the furor over Garten is making Enzo, who still admires her, feel worse, not better. Good luck putting the genie back in the bottle.)
Garten’s refusal was not wrong, and it was not justification for criticism. There are many legitimate reasons for her choosing not to give Enzo an audience, including just not wanting to do it. Do all of us have an obligation to do a favor for a stranger simply because they asked for it? No. Do we have an obligation to do the favor if the stranger is sick? Young? Old? Dying? No, no, no and no. Accept any other answer, and we are declaring that whenever the Make-a-Wish Foundation delivers a request, it is really a demand, backed by the threat of public humiliation….dictatorship of the desperate, attack of the compassion bullies….”
Ina Garten is being slammed for the way she has handled this situation. The entire affair reeks of blackmail by a sick kid’s parents. The Pink Flamingo has never seen her show, and would not recognize her in a Food Network line-up. That’s not the point.
Look at this Google Screen Shot:
I’m sorry, but this is a crock. Want to talk about bully tactics? If a person doesn’t want to meet with a sick kid they should be allowed not to meet with a sick kid.
This is not a critique of the Make a Wish Foundation. They do great things.
But – I have a problem with it. Allegedly the point of granting an extravagant and usually expensive wish is to make the kid forget their problems, for just a little while.
I can see doing something special to make life a little better for a kid who is in dire need of a little pick up. I read on one forum where a fish pond was installed for a two year old who was suffering from leukemia. He loved watching the fish. Who wanted the pond, the kid or the parent?
The Pink Flamingo could give this completely cynical comment that when it comes to a “wish” for a little kid, such as terribly expensive trips, etc. maybe tell the parents they can’t be a part of it. Seen how those wishes change.
Little kids don’t know what they want. Their whims change with their diapers. One week they may be in love with Big Bird, the next they are hanging with Elmo. The fun about little kids is how narcissistic and mecurual they actually are.
Have you ever seen a sullen older kid who is forced to live their life in the shadow of an adorable little sibling? I have. It is tragic. The same thing holds true for the siblings who are dealing with the tragedy of illness. They are pushed aside, ignored, and are quite often left to fend for themselves.
These are the kids who need help. They get none. They get no attention. They are forgotten. They don’t get a wish. They get squat. Then again, The Pink Flamingo has a tendency to stick up for normal kids who are getting the shaft.
I have a tremendous amount of compassion for the siblings of the oh-so-photogenic kids the Make a Wish Foundation helps. Who helps the siblings, who shall always remain nameless, pushed aside, and ignored? They are the ones who get my compassion.
They don’t photograph well in front of Mickey the Mouse or Donald the Duck.
“...The Make-A-Wish Foundation is one of the more glorified charities. Children are granted extravagant wishes in order to make them happy. And yes, these wishes do make the children happy. But for how long? A kid gets a gift and becomes very happy, but will soon become bored with it. A kid gets an experience, which he will hold in his memory, but that first burst of happiness will never be reclaimed and the memory will slowly fade. What the Make-A-Wish Foundation is really doing is providing short-term pleasure.
But this short-term pleasure for the child often also means a big publicity stunt for the Foundation. It’s quite an entertaining charity, really. But the problem is, the purpose of a charity isn’t to be entertaining. It’s to help people.
Does the Make-A-Wish Foundation help people? Well, strictly, yes. …
According to their website, they spend on average $7362 per wish. In 2009, they spent $135 million on granting wishes. While these wishes did provide temporary happiness for suffering children, that’s just about all they did. They didn’t solve any real problems or alleviate any long-term suffering….”
What has been done to this woman is vile and disgusting. A person has a right not to be blackmailed into meeting a sick kid. To have their reputation destroyed this way is vile. Not everyone does well with sick kids.
Someone who worked for Make-a-Wish wrote:
“…From what I remember about my brief stint stuffing envelopes and being an office jockey is how low the probability of fulfilling wish requests when a celebrity of any stature is involved. I also know that most chapters of the organization STRONGLY discourage those sorts of wishes because of their unlikelihood of being granted. Celebs ROUTINELY turn down requests to fulfill wishes and those who don’t bother with the courtesy of turning down the requests simply ignore them. That’s the nature of the nonprofit wish fulfillment business.
That throngs of keyboard warriors, fingers stained orange from cheetos, would seek to skewer Barefoot Contessa, frankly, was a bit disheartening to me. Personally, I find her show tedious, her recipes nasty looking and her persona grating. Nevertheless, I don’t believe ANYONE is under ANY obligation to fulfill wishes REGARDLESS of the circumstances. The reason is of no interest to me. Why women have to justify their NOs is really troubling and decidedly sexist. If this were a male celebrity/athlete his NO would be his NO. People might grumble a bit, but they certainly wouldn’t be taking to messageboards and comment sections armed with fatphobic, sexist and homophobic slurs decrying every person Garten has ever known simply because she was unable to honor this wish request. Garten doesn’t need a “good reason”; she doesn’t need a reason at all…”
I find myself going back to these “wishes”. How the heck does a two or three year old kid know how to make such extravagant wishes? There is absolutely nothing wrong with making life a little easier for the parents of a very sick kid. But – why hide the fact that the parents are the ones who are being helped?
Then there is all that money being spent on extravagant “wishes”. Sorry, but with the millions being spent, a heck of a lot of kids could be helped, in so many ways.
Just because a person is a celeb does not require them to spend their days and nights dancing for the fake compassion industry to make themselves look good. Look at the Obamas. They don’t give to charities. Very few big time liberal Dems do.
A person’s celebrity status should not determine if when and if they do the charity thing.
I have this problem with the whole compassion industry. I don’t believe in advertising one’s good deeds. Christ taught that we should not let our right hand know what our left is doing when it comes to charity. When someone advertises just what they do, that sends off alarm bells.
There is this other thing about demanding a celeb constantly donate – stuff. I have a friend who is one of the leading artists in the country. He comes from a family of celeb artists. One day the person who was running his gallery told me how many requests for charitable donations come in to him, demanding he give of either his time, a print, or money. I was told if he were to answer every request, it would literally break him, financially.
Celebs have a right to protect themselves and their interests without being damned and destroyed for not being charitable. This feeding frenzy is vile and deplorable – brought to you by a woman who, in all likelihood, is determined to be the best mom a kid with cancer could have.
Once upon a time, The Pink Flamingo knew a woman who wanted to be the best mother a blind child could ever have. By doing so, she eventually denied the child a chance for full vision, instead being the best mother a blind kid could have. She was acclaimed by one and all for her courage – as the best mom a blind kid could have.