I caught a snip of something on CNN Sunday morning. I’m not sure of the conversation, only that a certain woman may have been called down because she viewed every issue via gender identity politics of being a lesbian. It dawned on me that she was a very pathetic person, not because she was a lesbian (not that there’s anything wrong with that) but because she could only see the world that way.
As I have repeatedly stated, I no more care about a person’s proclivity than I do their color. I don’t give a rip. When a person must list their gender identity as who they are, is it possible they can’t come to grips with themselves? I find amusing people’s twitter labels. When I see someone, especially a man, who lists himself as heterosexual, my first thought is, okay, that guy has some ‘issues’.
Do you have any gay friends who use gender identity to identify themselves, politically? I don’t. My very dear gay friends don’t even vote. They are the most apolitical people I know. Then again they’ve been together for nearly 37 years. Their dynamics are basically the same a a heterosexual couple who has been married that long.
It started me thinking about how people view themselves and political identity. It’s rather like a woman who has a sole identity as a ‘mom’. Isn’t there anything else in her life besides being a ‘mom’? Sure, I am well aware it is time-consuming, all encompassing, and exhausting, but a woman should have more to her than ‘mom’. My mother had a heck of a lot about her other than ‘mom’. When I see women who consider that the only part of who they are, I see someone utterly miserable.
I’ve seen my sister transform herself from that all encompassing ‘mommy’ track, to exhausted home schooling parent, to someone dealing with older off-spring and their problems. I’ve watched her change from ‘mom’ to business woman, entrepreneur, to utterly harassed business owner with nearly 40 people on a payroll.
I use my sister as an example of how people change how they view themselves over the years. Today’s mommy-track exhausted woman is tomorrow’s small business owner. We evolve in how we see ourselves. It is part of personal growth. But, when a person can’t get past something like racial or gender identity politics, one begins to wonder if they can grow, as an individual.
How do you see your identity? I started thinking about this, listing 20 things about me. Try it, and see what happens. Try to leave gender as in male/female out of it. Think of who you really are. I have listed them in order of what is important to me.
- Expert in life of Wyatt Earp
- Expert in history of fashion
- Major science fascination (geology, astronomy, archaeology, paleontology)
- Serious background in fine arts, literature, art, music, humanities
- Fanatic about manners, etiquette
- Expert in British history, medieval, post-Roman UK, Arthurian, Tudor
- Opera fanatic
- Very well organized – anal about it
- Consummate shopper
- Major league British background/family tree
- Lover of baseball
- Collector (shoes, rocks, Louis Vuitton, pink depression glass, art, books, antiques, dust)
- Absolute bitch about proper dress, elimination of jeans, t-shirts, baseball caps, athletic shoes in daily life)
I surprised myself when making this list. I stopped to think about what was important to me. Funny how the political was not near the top. The only reason I used anything to identify me with gender is because I like “girly” things – pink, jewelry, shoes, handbags, shopping, don’t really care for sports. I have friends who laugh at me because of it. “Girly” isn’t really a gender thing. My sister is as heterosexual as I am, but she rarely does “Girly” and the color “pink” makes her want to vomit.
When thinking about this, I don’t make an issue because I’m single, have no children, six cats and a dog. I don’t even bother making an issue out of the fact that a good man is difficult to find. I realized I no longer even list “survivor of child abuse” as part of who I am.
While I was doing the list, I was adding a few things that were character traits, had to change that. So, I thought about listing 20 character traits.
- Pessimistic when it comes to people & human nature
- Total & complete skeptic of everybody and everything
- Cannot tolerate people who are arrogant or have a self-inflated sense of worth
- I detest “true” believers of any ilk who are closed minded and refuse to listen to reason.
- Charitable – Can be a total soft touch
- Warped sense of humor
- Curious to the point of being obsessive at times
- Organized thought process
- Can be a total bitch, even when not necessary
- Usually give people too much benefit of doubt
- Avoid house cleaning like the plague
- Have no tolerance for unfairness, unfair people
- Don’t really give much of a rip about success or being “important”
- Avoid unpleasant situations and confrontations
- Self deprecating
- High personal standards for myself but expect others to have none
Once again, there is nothing on this list that identifies my gender other than the word “bitch”. I could have said “can be a total jerk” but that doesn’t work. As a person, I think I am well aware of my faults.
How on earth can a rational, well rounded individual with a half-way decent outlook on life base their entire system of who they are on being a specific gender, race, proclivity, marital status, having a specific career, or looking a certain way? When this happens, I suspect, the person involved in such thinking is seriously in need of some therapy. All of their thrusters are not firing correctly.
As for a single issue political agenda, get a life.