Teenage Consequences and Good Parents


Screen Shot 2013-09-15 at 1.23.48 AM“…”Children have a much better chance of growing up if their parents have done so first.”..” Susan Peters

For several  years I did quite a bit of substitute teaching, primarily in high school.  I was known as the ‘cool sub’ because I didn’t care what the kids did as long as they did their work, broke no school rules, nor local, state or federal laws.  That’s what I told them.  Consequently, if I were left in charge of a class for a week, I would have the kids at least two weeks ahead of where the teacher’s lesson plans were.  I treated them like adults.

One day, some of the kids in one of the classes asked why I treated them like I did.  I told them that they were who they were going to be for the rest of their lives.  Their personalities were formed.  They had their likes, dislikes, quirks, and preferences.  The only difference between them and adults was the fact that they were lacking maturity and judgement.

There were only a few kids I did not get along with.  There was a specific kid who delighted in antagonizing me.  I figured this smart-ass would be the one most likely to end up in jail. I mentioned this to one of the girls in my youth group.  I was informed his parents would ‘kill’ this person if he/she stepped too far out of line.  Fast forward 12 years.  We are very good friends!  And, when I finally got to know the parents, we are also very good friends.

It dawned on me, as I started writing this post, that was the difference in the kids who were in my youth group and Kaitlyn Hunt.  These kids knew if they stepped out of line, their parents would ‘kill’ them.  That’s the difference.  Good parents who truly love their kids will, as they grow older, they need ‘space’ but they also need guidance and the threat of the parental Madam Guillotine hanging over their little necks.  That’s how we have, from the beginning of time, learned consequences.  You can’t become a mature adult without consequences.

“…Mentally, teenagers achieve great maturity of intelligence—their ability to calculate, memorize, and create is sometimes startling. The movie “Amadeus,” about Mozart, graphically illustrated this. Despite his youthful mental prowess, because his cognitive maturity lagged behind, Mozart’s capacity for making decisions that required judgment was strikingly immature. The primary message of recent groundbreaking neuroscience is that cognitive maturity develops last, after physical and mental maturity, for all adolescents. This research shows that cognitive maturity occurs in the mid-twenties…”

The Nebraska Supreme Court recently ruled that a a 16-year-old is not mature enough for an abortion.  This is not about abortion.  I will argue that if a child that age is not mature enough for an abortion they are not mature enough to raise a child or give birth to one.  This said, I’m looking at the headline because of something else it says.  If a state supreme argues that a child is not mature enough, at 16, for an abortion, then how the heck is a child mature enough, at the age of 14 to consent to mutual sex?

So much has been said and written about the Kaitlyn Hunt affair, much of it quite good, and quite a bit of it coming from your humble scribe.  I have become increasingly interested in Hunt family, their lack of maturity, social responsibility, and apparent attempts to shield a child who has serious emotional problems.  The Hunts and their supporters claim that the victim was old enough to make her own decisions.  They have done their best to brainwash and separate her from loving parents, while ignoring sociology that any responsible adult knows – automatically.

“…There is another reason, however, that teens struggle with maturation. Scientists are gaining new insights into remarkable changes in teenagers’ brains that may explain why the teen years are so hard on young people and their parents. From ages 11-14, kids lose some of the connections between cells in the part of their brain that enables them to think clearly and make good decisions….”

In his excellent Psychology Today article, Dr. Tim Elmore lists several ways to tell that a child is mature.

  1.  A mature person is able to keep long-term commitments.
  2. A mature person is unshaken by flattery or criticism.
  3. A mature person possesses a spirit of humility.
  4. A mature person’s decisions are based on character not feelings.
  5.  A mature person expresses gratitude consistently.
  6.  mature person knows how to prioritize others before themselves.
  7. A mature person seeks wisdom before acting.
  8. A mature person is teachable.
  9. Mature people—students or adults—live by values.
  10. Mature people know that their character is master over their emotions.
  11. Humility parallels maturity.
  12.  Mature people aren’t consumed with drawing attention to themselves.
  13. Mature people are the opposite of arrogance.
  14. One key signal of maturity is the ability to delay gratification
  15. A mature person can commit to continue doing what is right even when they don’t feel like it.
  16. Mature people can receive compliments or criticism without letting it ruin them.
  17. Mature people have principles that guide their decisions.
  18. A mature person is one whose agenda revolves around others, not self.

Like a typical abuser and/or rapist, Kelley Hunt Smith’s original tale was that the victim looked far more mature than her age, as if she were some hulking creature of a child, stalking and targeting their delicate, beautiful – very white child.

“…On the other hand, students have been stunted in their emotional maturity. They seem to require more time to actually “grow up” and prepare for the responsibility that comes with adulthood. This is a result of many factors, not the least of which is well-intentioned parents who hover over their kids not allowing them to experience the pain of maturation. It’s like the child who tries to help the new butterfly break out of the cocoon, and realizes later that they have done a disservice to that butterfly. The butterfly is not strong enough to fly once it is free….”

There are some experts who don’t even recognize a person’s brain as mature until they are 25.  The implications here are fascinating.  We know that Kate Hunt is a very immature person.

Sylvia Bunge
Sylvia Bunge

If this is indeed the case, then those followers of the Hunt family have over-played their hand in several different ways.  First, Kate’s victim did not have the brain maturity development to consent to what Kate wanted.  Secondly, Kate does not have the maturity to deal with standards and values.  If this is the case, she will indeed, be back in jail, not long after her parole begins. Thirdly, if Kate did not have the maturity to make good decisions, then she should have been directed by her parents.  Fourth, the Hunts are now pushing for a ‘Kate’s Law’ to promote early teenage sexuality.

These people are evil.  One of the reasons I think they are evil is because of the harm they have done to their children and the harm they have done to Kate’s victim.  I have my suspicions about their parenting and the abuse that I suspect may have gone on in that family. They have lied, manipulated, threatened, abused, and destroyed – just to keep this child out of jail.  Then, when she is sent back to jail for her actions which happened with the help of her mother, both Steve Hunt and Kelley Hunt Smith take off on vacation, leaving their little precious to stew.

The Hunts are not normal parents. If you look at the list of what constitutes a mature adult, then they are not mature adults. I think they’re probably the worst excuse for parents I’ve ever encountered.  Skirting around the pedophile issue, decent parents don’t allow their 19-year-old daughter to become the poster child for Pedophiles Are US.  Normal parents don’t push for laws basically allowing young girls to become sexual objects and have those laws named after their child.

You’d think, once Kate took the plea that these people would go away and lick their wounds.  Evidently, they’re here to stay, until they end up in the slammer with their child.  It’s only a matter of time.


One thought on “Teenage Consequences and Good Parents

  1. Well said SJ. The maturity issues are obvious, but confound the Hunts and their supporters, who want to make Kaitlyn the innocent waif, but the 14 year old victim the competent one. As Stacy McCain puts it, “bad causes attract bad people.”

    Sadly, they show no signs of withdrawing from the public scene. Just today, they supporters have targeted John Walsh, or America’s Most Wanted fame, for blame.

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