Conservatives, Religion, Sex & Divorce


Screen shot 2014-01-19 at 9.29.23 AMDid you know that ‘rich’ women enjoy sex more than do those who are in lower socio-economic groups?  Well, one of the reasons for this is that women who can afford contraceptives enjoy sex more than those who must constantly worry about getting pregnant.  Women who have attended college or have a higher income report lower abuse rates.  A history of abuse does not help a woman’s enjoyment of sex.  It is not the education that makes things better for women, but the security of a higher economic status that makes things different.

“…Earlier in the interview, Peeples and Swanson discuss how birth control came to be widely used and accepted by many churches. Women, Peeples laments, “desire the men’s role” and are now missing out on “the role God put them in that he laid out in Genesis.” Before World War II, Peeples claims, “abortion, sterilization, eugenics and birth control were all tied together” until “Hitler took the fall for taking it very aggressively and dramatically.”…”

Screen shot 2014-01-19 at 9.14.52 AMNo wonder certain women can’t enjoy sex! Why is this related to the religious right?

“...But there are other more subtle factors that may be at play affecting differences in life sexual satisfaction, especially the role of stress. In many studies comparing women of varying socioeconomic statuses, it is easy to forget that their disparate financial and social burdens can dramatically increase their respective levels of general stress.

A woman with minimal education, a large family to support, and low-paying job may very well face greater daily stress than a highly educated woman with a smaller family or more child care support and a high-paying job that she has greater scheduling and control over….”

We’re now living in a world where the far right has a very real war on contraception.  There are some, lead by extreme right, ‘reformed’ Kevin Swanson, who are part of that war on women, spreading false information and outright lying about contraceptives to promote their version of keeping ’em barefoot and pregnant.  No wonder women of the far right don’t like sex, and want divorces.  It is a recipe for abuse.

“...I’m beginning to get some evidence from certain doctors and certain scientists that have done research on women’s wombs after they’ve gone through the surgery, and they’ve compared the wombs of women who were on the birth control pill to those who were not on the birth control pill. And they have found that with women who are on the birth control pill, there are these little tiny fetuses, these little babies, that are embedded into the womb. They’re just like dead babies. They’re on the inside of the womb. And these wombs of women who have been on the birth control pill effectively have become graveyards for lots and lots of little babies….”

Screen shot 2014-01-19 at 9.32.25 AMA woman who  is educated, and not running around chasing her little quiverfull of nineteen kids has the time and the brains to know that people like Swanson are lying.   He is part of the Family-Integrated Church movement (cult).  This is part of their “confessional”:

“...Rather than helping in this battle, church leadership has sometimes unwittingly contributed to the problem. Despite the good intentions of many of these leaders, they bear a level of responsibility for the vulnerability of the family in the face of its enemies. Lack of understanding and even unfaithfulness to God’s Word in our pulpits have contributed to the decline of biblical Christianity and the dissolution of the family in our churches. The minimizing of scriptural authority in the church leads to unbiblical practices. This in turn leads to the perversion of the biblical roles of men and women, the destruction of our children, and the collapse of our society. Traditions, which have originated in the minds of devils and fallen men, are counterfeits to God’s authority. False doctrines derived from Darwinism, Marxism, Feminism, Secular Humanism, Psychology, and countless other unbiblical sources, have emerged from a society that has discarded Divine Revelation and have contaminated or replaced God’s standards in many professing churches of the Lord Jesus Christ. One of the bitter fruits of this is the fragmentation of the Screen shot 2014-01-19 at 9.39.01 AMfamily….We believe that the only resolution to this problem is repentance and reformation. We must confess our failures, reject the traditions of men, and wholeheartedly return to God’s revelation for the establishment and nurture of the family in loving obedience to the Lord Jesus Christ, the Head of the Church. Our fervent prayer is that our God will raise up Spirit-filled, Christ-centered, family-integrated assemblies from the ashes of our man-centered, family fragmenting churches.”

Golly gee.  I’m an ‘evil’ Episcopalian.  Our ‘confessional’ reads a heck of a lot different.

Most merciful God,
we confess that we have sinned against you
in thought, word, and deed,
by what we have done,
and by what we have left undone.
We have not loved you with our whole heart;
we have not loved our neighbors as ourselves. We are truly sorry and we
humbly repent. For the sake of your Son Jesus Christ,
have mercy on us and forgive us;
that we may delight in your will,
and walk in your ways,
to the glory of your Name. Amen.

Screen shot 2014-01-19 at 9.18.56 AMThey don’t really have a confessional of ‘sin’.  There’s a good reason for this.  One of the founders of this movement is Doug Phillips.  Yep, that Doug Phillips, of the new defunct Vision Forum. He’s the guy who allegedly had a long-term affair with a woman who was grossly under age when he began the affair.  This group is also connected to Bill Gothard.

“…Gothard was criticized by people outside of his seminar crowd as placing himself above medical Doctor’s advice.  The book is full of such.  He promotes teaching the fetus as well as adopting Freudian sexual theories.  Accused of teaching Judaism as Christianity, Gothard promotes the idea of arranged marriages.  Some have written his legalistic view of Scripture is not Biblical.  He once wrote that Cabbage Patch dolls were supposed to prevent women from giving birth, among other gems.  These other strange ideas flow from the book.

Chapter one of the work is a response to the Humanistic Manifesto, a small movement with limited followers. Gothard makes it the group he wants to respond to in the book.  Regarding abortion, Bill takes a viewpoint that IUD and other birth control pills kill a conceived child.  Gothard advocates the “full quiver” view of birth control. That is birth control is evil and out of the will of God.  God ordained reproduction and going with birth control is going against God. 

Screen shot 2014-01-19 at 9.38.00 AMViolating the cycle of a woman goes against God. He has several pages on this. Gothard  says this can cause medical as well as spiritual harm. It can even lead to infertility which is definitely against God.  Birth control can be murder.  The pill is evil and can cause many medical complications. Sterilization is wrong since there is no problem with over population in the world.  There is more than enough oil and land in the world to keep pace with a growing population.  If you are infertile call for the elders to lay hands on the wife. …”

Why is this important to all of us?  Well, evidently just living near a conservative, religious family can raise the divorce rate of a neighborhood!  There is a correlation between early marriage (remember, these people are now recommending a girl as young as 15 be married off to her 20 year old boyfriend).  Women who marry quite young and don’t go on to at least some college are more likely to have a larger family, a higher work-load, and are more likely to be abused.  Women of the far right, now involved in the patriarchal movement are, according to one ‘leader’:

Women are not to initiate important conversations.
They must wait until the husband brings them up.

The new Christian Reconstructionist climate in this country, where tens of thousands of families have opted for religious home-schooling.  Women are to concentrate on homemaking, not have jobs outside the home, and be stay at home moms.  There’s nothing wrong with this, if a woman is happy doing this.  BUT – to be forced into this, in a world where one’s father chooses the spouse, there is little education and children are so poorly prepared for the world that they can’t even make change at a burger counter, then something is terribly wrong.  Screen shot 2014-01-19 at 9.36.57 AM

“...In the modern day when we marry, we choose to marry, and as Christian women we want to say that we are under the headship of our husbands as we understand God to have prescribed in His creation order, we wear a wedding ring, and that says to anyone who sees us that we have chosen to marry. But at that time it seems to me from what I have seen in Biblical background and other things that it was not the wedding ring so much as it was this covering of the head that indicated the fact that a woman had chosen to marry and chosen to stand under the authority of her husband…”

What does this have to do with the fact that those who are in the conservative far right have a tendency to a higher rate of divorce, and infect the neighborhood?

“…As the mother of two daughters who are now adults, I am concerned about how the younger generation is being influenced to embrace gender roles.  Young Christian men are being taught to be the head of their wives because they claim it is biblical, and I fear that this overemphasis will cause a terrible strain on marriages in the long run. ..”

It is quite tragic.  One of the problems with the far right, these days, is that increasingly larges segments of it are increasingly ignorant about so many things that it is beginning to become alarming.  Not only do they do not comprehend the Constitution.  They no longer understand their faith.  Very slowly, good, decent, honorable people have been brainwashed to the point they do not know what they believe. The ignorance is so great, those of us whScreen shot 2014-01-19 at 9.40.15 AMo are part of mainline Protestant denominations are being attacked from both the right and the left.  This is a growing problem in this country.

Let’s put it this way, how the heck could a woman who is being submissive (religiously), worried about having yet another child, in charge of a grossly underfunded household where her bust-head but Godly husband is too much of a jerk to get a real job could enjoy sex?  She’s more worried about how her ten kids are going to be fed, clothed, and how she’s going to make ends meet.  She’s submissive, though, doing what she is told.

“…I believed the “Beautiful Girlhood” spiel. I did it everything the “right way”. I stayed at home, I submitted to my father, I skipped college, I prepared to be my husband’s helpmeet, and I regret it. I had years of my life go by where I was little more than an indentured servant to my parents. My husband and I were forced into thousands of dollars of debt working for an abusive employer that we could have thumbed our nose at if I had been able to get a job. While I was without the commitments of marriage and children, I could have easily gained an education that could have served me and my husband well in early marriage. All those years living as a quiet submissive housekeeper, I could have been discovering interests, and developing as a person….”

It is a recipe for abuse.