The New Way to Save Your Wife’s Soul


suffer-the-little-children-to-come-unto-meYet, O Lord, you are our Father;
   we are the clay, and you are our potter;
   we are all the work of your hand.  Isaiah 64:8

Vaughn Ohlman, an extreme right, godly man is involved in dominionism, patriarchialism, and Christian Reconstructionism.  Because he was born with the correct male features, he is the superior one.  In fact, he considers it treason against God when a godly man does not keep his godly wife barefoot and pregnant.  Olhman is part of a world where a woman spiritual life is literally owned by their husband.

“…1 Timothy 2:11-15 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.  For Adam was first formed, then Eve.  And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.

–This is, perhaps, the most dramatic command in Scripture regarding childbearing. While it is not exactly clear what ‘saved in childbearing’ means, the phrase is still a dramatic one. The passage makes it clear that the woman is to learn in silence, and why. It speaks of her having been decieved. And then it concludes with the dramatic, if difficult to understand conclusion, “she shall be saved in childbearing.” And we will let that end our section on commands….”

According to the Catholic Viewpoint, well…

“...The primary meaning of save in Greek is to be kept safe and sound, to save someone from injury, to restore someone to health, and to keep someone from perishing. This interpretation is consistent with Paul’s theology, that if we trust the Lord, He will keep us safe when we go through calamities. Paul’s concept of salvation is much broader than ours—we tend to think of Jesus saving us from hellfire and leaving us alone to fight office politics, natural disasters, health problems, and other difficulties by ourselves. But Paul saw Jesus as saving us through all things, even if they cause our death….Paul is instructing Timothy to reassure the women in his congregation who are anxious about the prospect of giving birth. This interpretation is completely consistent with Paul’s theology and his pastoral technique of reassuring people. So I think we have to go with this one. Paul says that a woman who trusts Jesus will be kept safe through the perils of childbirth….”

Does a man, a husband, a father have the responsibility of the faith of his wife and daughters? Does he have the responsibility of taking on their spiritual needs, and promote them, himself?  Is he actually doing something for the women in his life, or is this for his greater glory?  Yea, you know what I think.

“…By placing men in between their wives and Christ, patriarchy makes the family hierarchy into a rival Church, an idolatrous rebellion against God’s duly-appointed structures of redemption and creation. By equating the family with the Church and the Kingdom of God, these patriarchs have repeated the sin of Israel who wrongly believed that the Kingdom advanced by blood, not by grace. By such reckless equivocation, patriarchy undoes baptism and endangers the exclusive mediation of Christ for female and children believers, rebuilding barriers around them which Christ broke down….”

The other day, a Godly example of Christian Manhood tweeted that it was his goal as a husband to work diligently for the sanctification of his wife.  It comes from the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood.  Because we know the origin of tweet, then we know the intentions were not a darn bit charitable.  Their wives are to be shepherded.  Yep, shepherded. They think that part of promoting a wife’s health is to allow her to let her creativity flourish – allow her to do this.  This is where I also add that, having read well over a dozen pages from the site, by men, all they are doing is acting like a bunch of girly men trying to figure out what’s wrong with their marriages.  They are silly, shallow, and superficial.


To Sanctify means to be set apart for holy use as in 1 Thessalonians 4:7  For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification.

“…Sanctification follows justification. In justification our sins are completely forgiven in Christ. Sanctification is the process by which the Holy Spirit makes us more like Christ in all that we do, think, and desire. True sanctification is impossible apart from the atoning work of Christ on the cross because only after our sins are forgiven can we begin to lead a holy life….”

Oswald Chambers wrote about Sanctification in his classic My Utmost for His Highest, for July 22.  Chambers is rough, tough, and basically almost shatters the soul, he’s so rough.  I’m not good enough to even begin to deal with the deep issues he mentions.  But, it is his discussion of sanctification that needs to be mentioned here.

“...In sanctification God has to deal with us on the death side as well as on the life side. Sanctification requires our coming to the place of death, but many of us spend so much time there that we become morbid. There is always a tremendous battle before sanctification is realized— something within us pushing with resentment against the demands of Christ. When the Holy Spirit begins to show us what sanctification means, the struggle starts immediately. Jesus said, “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate . . . his own life . . . he cannot be My disciple” (Luke 14:26).

In the process of sanctification, the Spirit of God will strip me down until there is nothing left but myself, and that is the place of death. Am I willing to be myself and nothing more? Am I willing to have no friends, no father, no brother, and no self-interest— simply to be ready for death? That is the condition required for sanctification. No wonder Jesus said, “I did not come to bring peace but a sword” (Matthew 10:34). This is where the battle comes, and where so many of us falter. We refuse to be identified with the death of Jesus Christ on this point. We say, “But this is so strict. Surely He does not require that of me.” Our Lord is strict, and He does require that of us.

Am I willing to reduce myself down to simply “me”? Am I determined enough to strip myself of all that my friends think of me, and all that I think of myself? Am I willing and determined to hand over my simple naked self to God? Once I am, He will immediately sanctify me completely, and my life will be free from being determined and persistent toward anything except God (see 1 Thessalonians 5:23-24).

When I pray, “Lord, show me what sanctification means for me,” He will show me. It means being made one with Jesus. Sanctification is not something Jesus puts in me— it is Himself in me (see 1 Corinthians 1:30)….”

This is a horrible, miserable, shattering process that is not for everyone.  It is not for every Christian.  Quite frankly, I don’t even think it is for the majority of Christians.  The Christians I envy most are those who are not called to have a deeper relationship with the Lord.  If you start thinking about just who is called to go deeper, very few of us are.  And, it is a miserable process.  I’ve  gone through the molding process several times in my life.  To be honest, it is pure hell.  I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.  It is why I so envy Christians who are never called for the process

So, this goodly man, this godly example of sanctified, godly manhood, wants his wife to go through this miserable process.  Not only does he want to dominate what she believes, but he wants to dictate to God, what his wife is to believe, and how she is to be treated by God.  Women are no longer allowed to have their own spiritual lives.

Does a woman have a right to a spiritual life of her own, to grow at her own pace and be who and what she wants to be?

Have Thine own way, Lord! Have Thine own way!
Thou art the Potter, I am the clay.
Mold me and make me after Thy will,
While I am waiting, yielded and still.

Have Thine own way, Lord! Have Thine own way!
Search me and try me, Master, today!
Whiter than snow, Lord, wash me just now,
As in Thy presence humbly I bow.

Have Thine own way, Lord! Have Thine own way!
Wounded and weary, help me, I pray!
Power, all power, surely is Thine!
Touch me and heal me, Savior divine.

Have Thine own way, Lord! Have Thine own way!
Hold o’er my being absolute sway!
Fill with Thy Spirit ’till all shall see
Christ only, always, living in me.
Adelaide A. Pollard