Screen Shot 2014-03-12 at 1.24.59 AMAccording to Pat Robertson, a woman’s cancer is her fault – for not forgiving her abusive father. Now, in all fairness, I do believe in forgiveness. There are two reasons, and Robertson brought one up here. When you forgive, you do something positive to your body. Not being able to forgive is like a festering wound. And yes – I have known of people who let this fester into lethal cancer. Secondly, the Lord’s Prayer requires that we are forgiven as we forgive others. I’m big into forgiveness. In fact, the way this article is written, to make Robertson look bad, backfires. You can’t recover, you can’t move forward in your life.

Unfortunately, I agree with this:

“...Robertson asserted that the situation “could be the cause of that cancer.” “You might have a feeling of loss, an emptiness, and you’ve sort of turned off the tremendous system that you have to prevent — there’s an immune system that will function when you are forgiving,” he opined. The TV preacher pointed out that God would one day punish the father “horribly,” but “all you have to do is forgive him. “You cannot keep harboring it, it will hurt yourself,” he said. “So, let it go.”…”

Trust me, I know all about forgiveness.  If I can forgive the man who molested me when I was a child, then it is possible to forgive those who do horrible things to you.  No, it was not for the monster who nearly destroyed me, it was for me.  I realized I had to forgive him – for my own emotional well-being.

Forgiving someone who has wronged you is bad enough.  Try forgiving yourself.  That’s even worse. We must be able to see ourselves in a logical and reasonable manner, not tainted by our own self-loathing.  Perhaps that is the most difficult part of all.

Lent is a time for introspection, for examining one’s faith, and one’s own life.  Most of us have a tendency to be hard on people, but even worse on ourselves.  If we are to be honest, we need start the forgiveness process by learning to forgive and love ourselves.   Pat Robertson is right, not forgiving is a killer.

Christ was asked how many times one forgives a person.  I believe the answer was something like seventy times seven, or a heck of a lot of times.  I like forgiveness.  It forces us to maintain our basic humanity and decency and maybe not do stupid things in life by not forgiving, even for the annoying little things in life.