Should Fat Women Be Allowed to Live?

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Everyday Feminism
Everyday Feminism

“…Fat people are selfish people …just as most extremes and excesses are not tolerated nor should society excuse this new and shameful human epidemic…How about you all just stay in your homes rather than inflicting the sight and smell of your flab on us…I feel bad for ultra-obese people who smell bad. It must be awful for them…Fat people are simply greedy, lacking self respect and self restraint; thy must lean that only they themselves are to blame for their disgusting condition….”

This is the hard, cruel reality.

“…We all think we know someone in that rare group. They become the legends — the friend of a friend, the brother-in-law, the neighbour — the ones who really did it.But if we check back after five or 10 years, there’s a good chance they will have put the weight back on. Only about five per cent of people who try to lose weight ultimately succeed, according to the research. Those people are the outliers, but we cling to their stories as proof that losing weight is possible….”

UK MIrror
UK MIrror

It all started the other day with an Alternet article about a woman who is obese, and has an active sex life. You can imagine the comments – maybe.  The problem with comments like this, is any woman who is not an acceptable size is treated this way, subjected to cruel, vicious and humiliating remarks, which can show up, any time and any place. On line, the bullying only gets worse.  After this week, I can easily understand why a teenage girl, who is emotionally fragile, would evolve an eating disorder.  I can also understand how such bullying could lead to depression and suicide attempts. Quite frankly, the abuse turns up anywhere, but, having lived with liberals and conservatives, but, having faced their cruel bullying, I think some of the worst abuse I’ve encountered is from the ultra liberal and perhaps even libertarian base of Alternet.  They are the most abusive and  the nastiest bullies..

Alternet
Alternet

 “…Plus size is the woman who shows up at the local pizza parlor buffet wearing bullet proof polyester BROWN pants (stretched to the max) wolfing down incredible amounts of food – and uses a walker to stabilize her massive body while she loads her plate….The fashion industry can’t believe anyone is larger than a Size 10 because nobody else can, either. Being overweight for too long is unhealthy, irresponsible, and aggravating for those who really don’t like their health care costs going up every year. If you really want to make clothes for the super-sized, how about a pair of pants with only one leg? Won’t need two for very long….”

Everyday Feminism
Everyday Feminism

“…The term “plus-size” causes anger because the distinction inherently shames the woman concerned—and it gets worse. It can be bad enough to have your clothes described in the decidedly unsexy way as “plus-size.”

It is the final indignity to see a svelte woman who doesn’t remotely resemble your body to be labeled “plus size.” It’s almost as if the fashion industry is pretending that such a model somehow represents you and speaks to your body struggles or, worse, tacitly implies you should aim to look like her….”

The Chronicle of Higher Education
The Chronicle of Higher Education

“…She told me that her team did a lot of collaborative work in this lab, and she didn’t need someone who was going to “eat more than their fair share of the pizza, if you know what I mean.”…”

The UK Daily Mail featured an article about flying for obese people. These are some of the comments.

UK Daily Mail
UK Daily Mail

Anyone who has battled their weight, their entire life, knows only too well what this person wrote in a comment.  The problem is, there are haters in any group of people, no matter how thin.  No one wants to accept the cold hard reality of life.  The worst part is if you study the statistics on various surgeries for weight loss, 80% of those who have the surgery will have, within 10 years, gained back the weight they lost, while sacrificing their health.

Everyday Feminism
Everyday Feminism

“…I am a Physician, and I am annoyed at these comments; …a bunch of people who are fixed on keeping their prejudice that over-weight people are lazy & eat stupid junk, while they are superior ( Some-day this will seem like the “Against Women’s Sufferage” crowd, who from 1885 to 1919 kept women from voting because they believed girls were inherently too stupid to vote ! ) I’ve been a family doctor for 25 yrs & followed thousands… only a very few can lose over 30 lbs …& they have to have gone from terrible in-active beer-drinking fast-food life-style to one full of exercise & spa-salad food. Lots of other people eat well already, indulge occasionally, and walk a lot, but are still over-weight …so, you should not judge every-one you see !! Usually, if I see a weight-loss of more than 25 lbs, I expect to be looking for cancer. This is truth and NOT new info. My University of Toronto classmate & eminent McMaster physician, James Douketis, authored a review of “Non-Surgical Treatment of Obesity” published in Dec 2006, in the journal “Canadian Family Physician” : His conclusion after reviewing all programs of “Diet & / or Exercise” ? People do NOT lose weight; total weight loss is 2 to 4 lbs after 2 years.(NB. the naturally-skinny can’t gain weight, either.) Genetics, combined with our infancy-and-childhood diet. There is a lot of bullying and a lot of self-hate over weight, and it is un-justified misery. There are people who have health-reasons to need to lose 50 lbs, that’s true … I send them to surgery….”

UK Daily Mail
UK Daily Mail

Once upon a time when Voyager II was flying by Saturn, I was covering the mission at the JPL in Pasadena.  One afternoon, after a morning spent flirting with one of the greatest astronomers of recent years, I decided to go to the mall.  I needed a specific kind of necklace to wear to a banquet the following evening.  I was having a quick lunch in the food court.  While I was eating, and reading, a group of young males sat down behind me.  Every time I took a bite, they started making pig sounds.  I threw my lunch away and left.  They followed me through the mall, making pig noises and calling me a fat pig. I should have reported them to security, but I was too humiliated.

Everyday Feminist
Everyday Feminist

“…Stigmatization based on body weight can lead to a devalued social identity and the stigmatized people are often ascribed stereotypes or other labels denoting a perceived deviance which can lead to prejudice and discrimination. Common, “weight-based”, stereotypes are that obese persons are lazy, lack self-discipline, and have poor willpower, but also possess defects of intelligence and character. Other common weight-based stereotypes of obese persons are that obese persons are unattractive, unhealthy, have a bad diet and/or don’t exercise. Pervasive social portrayals of obesity create and reinforce biased attitudes….”

UK Daily Mail
UK Daily Mail

I’m not perfect.  I’ll never be thin.  But, because I’ve never been thin there is one condition which is going to leave me alone.  That’s a very good thing.  In my family it is lethal, and attacks anyone who is thin.  It is called osteoporosis.  If you’ve ever seen anyone who has the disease, well, I’d rather have people make fun of me, now, than go through what my mother, who was always way too thin, is going through today.

Osteoporosis is, when it reaches late states, as painful as bone cancer.  Any little movement can cause a break.  One broken hip and a woman suffering from osteoporosis is dead.  My sister and I live in horror with our mother. Her osteoporosis is now so bad, her bones are breaking on their own.  It killed her mother.  But – it will never get me.

Yep, I’m fat.  I’m old, and feel horribly unattractive.  But, about 20 years from now, when all those cute little thin skanks are walking around, bent over, with a hideous hump on their back the size of  a basketball, well, I’ll be the old fat chick having fun.

Life sucks, doesn’t it?

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