Trigger Warning


Screen Shot 2015-05-29 at 3.52.55 AM“…Trigger warnings are customary in some feminist and other spaces. They are designed to prevent people who have an extremely strong and damaging emotional response (for example, post-traumatic flashbacks or urges to harm themselves) to certain subjects from encountering them unaware….”

If you spend any time reading sites which deal with various forms of abuse, especially religious abuse, you will see ‘trigger warning’ signs.  A trigger warning is to let someone know that something they might read might upset them. And, we just can’t have that.  We just cant let someone who has been through hell, read, see, or experience anything which might remind them of their past.  We must not upset the survivors.

Having been a survivor for nearly thirty years, trust me, the worst thing you can do is avoid the unpleasantness.  Surviving is not for cowards or for people who are afraid to face their worst nightmares.  By living a life, leaping from one trigger warning to another, crying, wringing one’s hands, and re-victimizing yourself, you don’t recover.   You remain a victim, growing more and more bitter and more and more warped by the day.

You want to survive?  You want to grow-up, deal with life, and face the horrors that require trigger warnings.  If  you don’t, you remain a small child inside, angry, festering, and unable to evolve into a strong, new being.

I survived by finally facing my worst fears.  I did not want to do it, but, thanks to a group of friends, my therapist, a First Nation’s medicine man, and a conspiracy, I was literally forced to face the last of my fears.  Once I did, I began to recover.  The past had no hold over me.

I won.
You can’t win by hiding behind trigger warnings.
All they do is control and manipulate you.
Like I said, grow up!
Quit acting like a brat with a borderline personality disorder.
The world does not revolve around you.
It never did.
Deal with it.
Deal with the fact that bad things happen to good people.
Humans existed for tens of thousands of years without trigger warnings.
Quit hiding behind trigger warnings and you may just recover.
Keep hiding behind them and you will never grow out of your problems.