PART III: The Modest Christian Woman


Screen shot 2014-05-16 at 1.08.06 PMIt’s all about control.

“…Men, teach your daughters and wives that they don’t have to, nor should they, show off their God-given beauty in a way that harms others…”

Recently a young Christian man wrote about how women tempted him.  Because he found himself tempted with impure thoughts, well, women should be to blame.  Never mind that impure thoughts are perfectly normal.

“…I believe that women should dress modestly. Why, because they have to? Because they’re asking for it if they don’t? Because their bodies are not godly things? No, not at all. They should dress modestly because they love and value men….”  Peter Chin

Just remember, ATI ‘christianity’ is not about normal.  It is a cult, created by a pervert, Bill Gothard.  In it, he has set up a guideline of how he wants women to dress.  It has evolved into the following dribble, rules and regulations of what it takes for a ‘godly’ ‘christian’ women to be modest.  It disturbed him to see women in mini-skirts and beach attire.  In fact, Michelle Duggar is a perfect example of how Gothard wants women to dress.  I don’t know about you, but to me, her hair looks filthy.

“…If he can’t get away from this overly sexed culture even at church, he begins to think the fight isn’t worth the cost.  I’m not excusing lust; I’m just painting a realistic picture of the battle men encounter daily.  It’s not easy to stay pure in today’s culture.  A man may be doing fine with his thoughts one minute, and then a woman in a short skirt, high heels, and painted toenails walks by, and something stirs within him.  He starts thinking about how he can relieve the sexual pressure that bubbles somewhere deep in his soul….”

Let’s face it, the fake ‘christian’ world of Calvinism, Christian Reconstruction, ATI, and so forth and so on don’t like pornography, declaring it to be an addiction, which, clinically, it is not.  It is an obsession, but not an addiction.  It’s tacky, annoying, and does miserable things to people, but it is not an addiction.

“...Guys with a decent amount of integrity are hard to find, but if you dress modestly, you will attract the right kind-someone who likes you for you, not your skimpy clothes….”

What a woman should not wear:

  • 1 Peter 3:3-4 says, “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair [2] and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. People who invest in such things just don’t have their priorities right, and neglect God.
  • Married women either dress too sexy or not sexy enough.
  • If we women dress immodestly, we have forgotten why we were put on earth.
  • “…I know women who’ve grown up in the church, even attended Bible college, and yet wear immodest clothes or else do inappropriate things, such as bend over at the hip with their butt sticking out for all to see.  Women shouldn’t do this around men….”
  • Close your legs while you sit – don’t do a Sharon Stone.  It gets men all hot and bothered, there at church, looking up a woman’s dress.  Just don’t tempt the little perv.
  • Don’t wear halter tops to church.
  • Don’t expose your cleavage at church.  (I guess that leaves me out).
  • If you must wear something exposing your cleavage, make sure you put your hand on your chest when you bend over so the little perv can’t see what he wants to see.
  • Oh, bend at the knee, so you don’t expose your boobs.
  • “…When you yawn and stretch within the eyeshot of men, don’t arch your back in such a way that causes your breasts to protrude. ….  You’re inviting men to notice your breasts when you do this. …”
  • Keep your skirts at knee level.
  • Don’t wear tight jeans.
  • Don’t expose your navel.
  • Don’t expose your midriff.
  • Don’t wear things that have writing over the rear or you are inviting men to look at your bottom.
  • Pants tend to draw a man’s attention to a woman’s crotch.

“…Second, Christian women need to make sure they’re dressing and living modestly.  Help men live holy lives by the way you dress.  We’re assaulted with sex every day.  We’re already trained (by culture and our own sinfulness) to think sexually, so don’t make us endure it at church.  There’s still great power in concealing your physical beauty….”

Jeremy Clark, a goodly ‘christian’ man further says:

  • When bending over in a loose-fitting or scoop-neck blouse, always place your hand over the neckline.
  • “When wearing a button-down blouse, stand sideways and look at the buttonholes in a mirror.  If they spread too far apart or gape too much, you’ll expose your chest.  Pin between the buttons if you need to.
  • “For all blouses, be conscious about your bra showing.  Be especially careful with the armholes or straps of sleeveless blouses.  Just the sight of your undergarments can cause a guy to stumble.
  • “When wearing a dress or skirt, always stand in the light and check if you need a slip.  Even a lightweight black dress can reveal your silhouette (in other words, be see-through).  Your best bet is to always wear a slip.  And if you can’t find a slip short enough for your skirt, chances are your skirt is too short!
  • “When wearing a skirt or dress, always be conscious of the way you’re sitting.  You may think I don’t need to mention this obvious fact, but you’d be surprised how often girls fail to sit modestly.
  • “When wearing a skirt, be aware that changing positions will cause your skirt to bunch or pull.  Smooth your skirt down when you sit down or stand up.
  • “When choosing a bra, remember that lace and seams will show through many tops.  Choose a seamless or smooth bra whenever possible.  (And remember, it’s almost pointless to wear a bra if the material of your blouse is too thin.  I don’t have to tell you what happens when you get cold.  Protect yourself with a thicker material.)
  • “The best advice I could give you is to stand in front of a mirror before you go out.  Bend over, turn side to side, turn around, and check everything.  Be aware of what different kinds of clothing can reveal.

You may have noticed there are no rules for men.

“...Modesty in the way we dress is not just for church; it is to be the standard for all Christians at all times. The key to understanding what constitutes modesty in dress is to examine the attitudes and intents of the heart. Those whose hearts are inclined toward God will make every effort to dress modestly, decently, and appropriately. Those whose hearts are inclined toward self will dress in a manner designed to draw attention to themselves with little or no regard for the consequences to themselves or others.

A godly woman endeavors to do everything with a “God-ward” perspective. She knows that God wants His people to be concerned for His glory and the spiritual state of their brothers and sisters in Christ. If a woman professes to be a Christian yet she dresses in a way that will unduly draw attention to her body, she is a poor witness of the One who bought her soul by dying for her on the cross. She is forgetting that her body has been redeemed by Christ and is now the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19–20). She is telling the world that she determines her own worth on a purely physical basis and that her attractiveness depends on how much of her body she reveals to them. Further, by dressing in an immodest fashion, displaying her body for men to lust after, she causes her brothers in Christ to sin, something condemned by God (Matthew 5:27–29). Proverbs 7:10 mentions a woman “dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent”—here, the woman’s heart condition is displayed by her manner of dress….”

Another godly woman wrote:

“…We have several reasons why I wear dresses only. The main reason is not to defraud men with the way I dress. If a lady wears pants, a man’s eyes are drawn to a part of her body they should not be drawn to. This can cause a man to have impure thoughts. The same thing with tight, revealing tops or low-necked blouses. We have heard some say, “But he is responsible for his thoughts!” Yes, that is true, but it is also our responsibility as a godly woman to dress in a way that would not provoke those thoughts. Would you be willing to deny yourself the “pleasure” of dressing the way you want to help a brother in Christ? “Wherefore, if meat make my brother to offend, I will eat no flesh while the world standeth, lest I make my brother to offend” (1 Corinthians 8:13). We could paraphrase it and say, “If a certain type of clothing make my brother to offend, I will not dress that way…”…”

This in itself is laughable.  Women look at men, who wear pants.  Are men to go around in kilts so that we won’t look at their rears?   Instead, we are told that:

  • 1. Does what you wear reflect a heart focused on the Lord Jesus Christ?
  • 2. Does what you wear communicate a love for others or self-centeredness?
  • 3. Is what you’re wearing likely to tempt a man to lust? No, we’re not responsible for a man’s sin, but most of us can recognize whether or not what we’re wearing could be considered a little “sexy” by a guy.
  • 4. Does what you’re wearing draw the eye (by being too tight or revealing) to areas of the body that should be covered for everyone but your husband? Stockings “cover” the legs, but still completely reveal what is underneath. Other articles of clothing can do something similar.
  • 5. Is what you’re wearing going to expose intimate areas of your body if you cross your legs or lean over (tops or bottoms)?
  • 6. If you honestly examine your motives, are you wearing what you’re wearing to attract the opposite sex?
  • 7. Does your choice of clothing speak dishonestly of who you are as a Christian?
  • 8. And here’s the most important one. Does what you wear point to Jesus or to yourself? Do your clothes say, “Look at me,” and in so doing, distract others from God? And let me remind you, this can be done in clothing that is not the least bit sexually enticing.

I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of this ignorant sh*t.  I’m tired of their self-righteous holier than thou attitude. I’m sick and tired of being told that, if I don’t dress modestly, that I’m not reflecting Christ as my Savior.  That’s a pile of manipulative barnyard substance.


5 thoughts on “PART III: The Modest Christian Woman

  1. Sorry, but you missed one – a very important one. Women should never wear a skirt with patent leather shoes. Why? A man might be able to see her panties reflected in the shoes.

  2. This is ridiculous. Perhaps it is a cultural thing, but it is impossible to understand this.
    My great grandmother and grandmother wore pants and shorts. Why? Because it was more comfortable and easier to do farm chores in them than dresses and skirts; plus they were quite well regarded equestriennes in their community, back in a time when that was a necessary thing — riding a horse in pants is definitely a lot easier (and a whole lot safer, as well as arguable more modest), so why shouldn’t they wear what works? And for that matter, why shouldn’t they have the freedom to be so helpful to their families? None of the men thought anything of it — and none of them went on sex frenzied rape fests or anything of the sort.
    My father’s family are off the boat Italians, and it has always been considered that there is nothing wrong, in fact everything right (a God given gift to mankind that he should be grateful for and embrace totally) with a sexually appealing, well done up woman (bella ragazza or bella donna — it’s to be appreciated). Why shouldn’t a woman want to make herself up in such a way as to show off her beauty and style? What is slutty about a well done up woman who is sexy? Why wouldn’t a man be happy to have that about? While they certainly weren’t adverse to an admiring glance or even a comment or two (always complimentary), none of the men went on rape fests or were unfaithful, or even rude (unless you consider telling a woman that she looks particularly charming and lovely that day a sign of rudeness).
    I’m glad my family isn’t into this. I’ll keep my pants, my makeup, and my sexy clothes, thank you!

  3. Sorry to take so long approving. Half the time new comments don’t show up when they should. I’ve put you on an automatic post from now on. It’s crazy – all about control. They hate women. I’m doing these posts as a quick and easy way to get a few chapters in for a book I’m doing. One of the things I want to do is go back and research the psychology of men who do this.

  4. Well we live in America and people can do what they want. If you don’t like the churches of the Duggers etc. Why don’t you join the Church of She or the Episcopal church. Better yet, Join witch craft. In wicca I was told that wearing clothes was a lie and that being naked was the real truth. Also, I was told that sex was a way to gain power. Honestly I don’t know why you are so angry. I don’t even think there are very many women wearing dresses anyway. AT least not where I live. No one where I live wear dresses ever. So I find this curious. Which town in New Mexico are you living in and which church?

  5. I don’t tell people where I live. Going to church on Sunday is entering into the Lord’s House. While ‘Sunday Best’ is a fairly modern, late Victorian invention to sell clothes and exhibit a family’s ability to pay for conspicuous consumption, I do think we should have a little respect for the occasion, and not dress like a person is shopping at Walmart. Then again, people in this country have lost all sense of pride in their appearance and generally go around looking like a bunch of rejects from a dung pile.

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